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Sunday, October 4, 2015

認真的勒勒、可愛的信件

剛開始教勒勒中文的時候,我設定了清楚的目標:只要他能夠聽、說、讀就好,不需要學會寫方塊字。我心裡想,只要他學會了拼音,以後用電腦打字就可以了,不需要會寫。然而,隨著勒勒中文一天一天的進步,我發現他經常用塗鴉的方式試圖想要寫字,對寫字的興趣也越來越濃厚,我又聽朋友說,練習寫方塊字有助於孩子的腦部發育,所以也就開始教勒勒寫字。
勒勒經常聽我跟朋友聊天時會說,不知道勒勒上學以後中文能夠記得多少。頭幾天上學回來,他帶了學校老師提供他們自由創作的紙回來,上面寫著幾個他記得的字,他說:「媽媽,我擔心我把中文忘了,所以自由活動時間我就拿紙練習寫字。」我聽了莞爾一笑,果然是我的孩子阿!這樣認真的性格。
經常我們練習寫字的時候我鼓勵勒勒說:你要好好練習寫字,這樣子以後你上學的時候,如果發生什麼有趣好玩的事情你很想跟爸爸媽媽說的時候,你就可以把它寫下來。就好像寫信給爸爸媽媽一樣。

沒想到上學第二週,勒勒從學校帶回了一個信封,興高采烈的表示是他寫給媽媽的信。一邊拆著信一邊跟我說:「媽媽,『公園』兩個字到底是怎麼寫的?我今天怎麼都想不起來。」信件打開,果然「公園」兩字沒寫對,但他勉強塗鴉了一個有點像「公園」的字樣。勒勒不知道怎麼表達學校的遊戲場(Playground),所以稱之為公園。
再隔了一天,勒勒又帶了一封信回來了,旁邊還畫了一個圖,他說跳最高的這一個是他,旁邊低低的地方還畫了四個人,顯示他們跳得沒有這麼高。我讀了信以後,他給我補充說明:「媽媽,其實我沒有跳很高。」我心裡想,這孩子還挺誠實。接著他又說:「是因為我本來想要寫很多事情告訴你,像是『我今天畫了一幅圖畫』,但是我想不起來畫怎麼寫,想要拼注音又想不出來『ㄏ』怎麼寫。想來想去我發現只有『我今天跳很高』這一句話我每一個字都會寫,所以我就決定寫這一句話。」聽得我哈哈大笑。「高」沒有寫對,不過還猜得出來。

為了增加勒勒寫字的動機,我想了一個點子:把每天都要做的中文習作本改成每天寫一句話,像日記一樣,並且說好了最後要把這篇日記寄給阿公媽媽,當做一封信一樣。起先,確實是大大增強了他的動機,不過大約完成了一頁以後就開始有一點意興闌珊了,但還是在有比較令人興奮的事情發生的時候(例如打扮成牛仔去上學、得到手錶當生日禮物等等),願意繼續寫下去。其實日記裡很多字勒勒都還不識得,也不會寫,但是他偏偏很完美主義的不願意寫注音,非要我教他那個字的國字怎麼寫,那我也就順水推舟,學著國語課本上面教寫字的方式一筆劃一步驟那樣的給他寫一個「寫字說明書」。勒勒很喜歡拼Lego,我跟他說這個「寫字說明書」其實跟Lego是一樣的道理的,一個步驟一個步驟來,就可以完成。這個說法對他來說似乎很有幫助。
這封「日記」信,我覺得特別有意思。不但練習寫字、還可以記錄下生活點滴,更可以寄給阿公阿媽讓他們分享我們的生活與參與勒勒的學習。

收到妞妞姊姊的生日祝福圖畫以後,我也很積極的鼓勵勒勒給妞妞姊姊回一封信。特地幫他把生字格印在漂亮的信紙上面了,這樣子寫起來更有成就感一些。
在沒有什麼中文大環境薰陶、家裡又有兩個年幼的妹妹和弟弟的條件下,這一路上教勒勒學中文經常是需要咬著牙才堅持得下去的事情,但是看到勒勒可以學以致用的在學校寫信帶回來,我真是為孩子認真學習的態度、學以致用的精神感謝神。

要怎麼讓孩子扎實的學習卻又能享受學習的快樂,一直是這一路上我最艱難的挑戰。求神給我智慧,知道怎麼讓孩子在快樂中繼續的學習,不要扼殺知識能給他帶來的喜悅。

Friday, February 7, 2014

我們家的半夜 The night in my house

11:45pm我們還沒睡呢!勒哭醒了,要我陪著他回房間去睡。

12:30am
我坐在他兩的床邊還沒走呢!
睡夢中的路路大聲而清晰的喊道:「哥哥,要刷牙洗澡了。」安靜數十秒鐘以後,大聲喊:「好臭!好臭!」再過幾秒鐘,非常小聲的呢喃:「我要pee pee了。」媽媽聽到這裡趕緊把路路抱起來,小姑娘於是乎尿了我一身的睡衣。換了床單以後,小姑娘接著睡了,中間迷迷糊糊的,似乎一點兒沒醒

3:00am~4:30am
路路兩度遊走到我們房間,健記把她領了回去,第三次又來了,我們終於許了他可以在我的床邊打地舖。她堅持要拉著手睡,我的手酸了,好不容易勸說她放開了手,她卻顯得躁動不安。健記擔心我沒有休息,讓我跟他換了床位,小妞見勢立馬站起身來,拖著自己的被子往床的另外一邊走,口中喃喃有詞:「我要睡媽媽旁邊。」

5:10am
隔壁睡夢中的勒勒突然放聲尖叫大哭:「不是這樣。不是這樣。」一經查問,他說:「我想要吃這一種麵,但是媽媽要我吃那一種麵。
(顯然在夢中吃著麵呢!)

6:30am
勒勒帶著他的被子來了,看見他的老位置上面竟然躺著妹妹,依然故我的把自己擠在妹妹旁邊。

8:00am
我們起床看見兩個孩子七橫八豎的睡在我旁邊的地舖上。新的一天又要開始。

我們家的夜裡很熱鬧,這只是其中一個例子而已。
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11:45pm
I had not gone to bed. Sean woke up and asked for my company. I took him back to his room and stayed with him.

12:30am
I had not left the room yet. Lyla shouted loudly and clearly, ”Brother, it is time to take a shower and brush your teeth.”
A few seconds later, she said, “Smelly! Smelly!”
About another ten seconds later, she murmured with a very low voice, “I need to go pee pee.”
I jumped up and picked her up. Right after that, she peed all over my sleeping gown.
After I changed her pants and bed sheets, I gently laid her back on her bed. It looked like she never woke up.

Between 3:00am and 4:30am
Lyla woke up and came to our room. Chienchi took her back to her room. She came out again about fifteen minutes later. Chienchi took her back to her room again and stayed with her for a while. When she came to our room the third time, both of us were too tired to get up and take her back. Therefore, we allowed her to sleep by the side of our bed, my side, with her own blanket. After everything was settled, she asked Mommy to hold her hand, and I did it for a while. My arm got sore and I told her that she needed to learn to sleep without Mommy holding her hand. She finally let go, but became very restless and kept making all kinds of sounds. Chienchi was worried that I was too tired and tried to switch places with me on the bed. Right after Lyla noticed that, she stood up and dragged her blanket toward the other side of the bed and said, “I want to sleep by Mommy.” I had to switch with Chienchi again. I do not remember when she finally fell asleep.

5:10am
Sean shouted and screamed from the next door, “It is not like that! It is not like that.”
“What is going on?” Dad asked
“I want to eat this kind of noodles, but Mommy wants me to eat that kind of noodles.”
Apparently, he was eating the noodles while he was sleeping.

Around 6:30am
Sean came to our room with his blanket. He noticed that Lyla was in his spot. He still squeezed himself in with Lyla on the floor. I was too tired to get up; I just gave him a glance to make sure he was warm enough.

8:00am
We woke up and noticed that the two kids were lying on the floor by my side in very funny directions. A new day was going to start again.

We usually have very numerous and unusual events going on during the nights in our house. This was just one of the example of them.

Thursday, October 21, 2010

媽媽法寶:下床穿褲法

勒勒穿衣服很不老實,尤其是穿褲子。要不就是縮腳抽出褲管,就是用爬行的方式爬出我已經套了一半的褲管,每一次穿褲子都大費周章,時常看著我追著一個戴著尿布的小屁股跑。

因應這個調皮搗蛋鬼,「下床穿褲法」成了我完美的solution。


把原本待在地上玩的小鬼抓到床上趴放(最好地上還有吸引他想要回去玩的東西),趁他還沒滑下床之前把兩腳塞進褲管裡面(只需要塞一點點就好了,這影片拍得晚了一點),他急著想要下床玩,「咻」一聲溜下床的瞬間褲子就穿好啦!

Saturday, August 14, 2010

The power of parents

這張照片是CC跟我一起同聲「罐頭笑聲」(假笑啦!)引來的笑瞇了眼的小勒笑顏。

有一天CC不知跟我想到什麼好笑事情同時大笑起來,原本安安靜靜坐在地上玩玩具的小勒抬起頭來不明究裡的跟著放聲哈哈大笑,彷彿他也覺得這件事情非常好笑一樣。把我跟CC逗得更是放聲大笑。